MENGELOLA EMOSI MARAH ORANG TUA DALAM WACANA FIQH PARENTING
Abstract
Marah merupakan salah satu emosi yang kuat dan dapat memengaruhi hubungan orang tua dan anak secara signifikan. Ilmu psikologi menawarkan strategi pengelolaan marah yang menekankan pada kesadaran diri, keterampilan komunikasi, dan aspek lain sehingga mampu mengarahkan kemarahan secara efektif. Di samping itu, fiqh parenting menawarkan berbagai cara yang dianggap ideal untuk mendidik anak dalam perspektif Islami yang dilandaskan pada dalil-dalil nash dan hikayah para salafus sholih. Artikel ini bertujuan untuk menjelaskan esensi pengelolaan emosi marah yang secara implisit melandasi beberapa cara dalam mendidik anak dalam Islam. Metode yang digunakan dalam penulisan artikel ini adalah tinjauan pustaka dan teknik analisis tematik. Hasil dari penulisan artikel ini menunjukkan bahwa cara mendidik anak dalam Islam sejalan dengan pengelolaan emosi marah dalam kajian psikologi dimana orang tua harus mampu menekan rasa marah dalam menghadapi perilaku dan ucapan anak dan terfokus pada cara-cara mendidik anak yang baik dan tepat menurut rambu-rambu fiqh parenting.
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Heriyanto, Heriyanto. “Thematic Analysis sebagai Metode Menganalisa Data untuk Penelitian Kualitatif.” Anuva 2, no. 3 (22 November 2018): 317. https://doi.org/10.14710/anuva.2.3.317-324.
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Suwaid, Muhammad Nur Abdul Hafizh. Prophetic Parenting: Cara Nabi Saw Mendidik Anak. Yogyakarta: Pro-U Media, 2010.
Widyanto, Anton. “PENGEMBANGAN FIQH DI ZAMAN MODERN.” Jurnal Ilmiah Islam Futura 10, no. 2 (1 Februari 2011): 82–100. https://doi.org/10.22373/jiif.v10i2.46.
Winegardner, Jill, Clare Keohane, Leyla Prince, dan Dawn Neumann. “Perspective Training to Treat Anger Problems after Brain Injury: Two Case Studies.” Disunting oleh Rick Parente. NeuroRehabilitation 39, no. 1 (6 Juli 2016): 153–62. https://doi.org/10.3233/NRE-161347.
Yamaguchi, Ayano, Min-Sun Kim, Atsushi Oshio, dan Satoshi Akutsu. “The Role of Anger Regulation on Perceived Stress Status and Physical Health.” Personality and Individual Differences 116 (Oktober 2017): 240–45. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.paid.2017.03.053.
Published
2023-09-30
How to Cite
ILMA, Mughniatul; BAQI, Safiruddin Al.
MENGELOLA EMOSI MARAH ORANG TUA DALAM WACANA FIQH PARENTING.
Proceeding of Conference on Strengthening Islamic Studies in The Digital Era, [S.l.], v. 3, n. 1, p. 275-293, sep. 2023.
ISSN 2808-4675.
Available at: <https://prosiding.iainponorogo.ac.id/index.php/ficosis/article/view/988>. Date accessed: 06 may 2024.
